What do you feel when you hear the word CHOICE?
Or the word DECIDE?
What does your mind immediately jump to?
For me those two words used to conjure up fear, uncertainty, feeling incapable, feeling trapped.
Choices and decisions were very hard for me to make, too, because of a deep seated belief that nothing I choose or decide matters because it won’t work anyway. I was afraid to choose because that meant I could make a mistake. And I’d already made so many mistakes in my past! And I hated choosing because I felt like nothing would ever change anyway.
Does that ring true for you, too?
The crappiest thing was, I intellectually knew that to participate in creating a life you love we must make choices.
I’m sure you know this, as well.
But knowing this wasn’t enough. I had to break free of that belief so that I could feel safe deciding and choosing instead of constantly recreating chaos, struggle, feeling like a victim of circumstances, and feeling stuck.
The truth is, sometimes the choices are simple and sometimes they’re hard. And sometimes there is no easy and obvious decision and we must dig really deep for clarity.
And each choice we are faced with gives us the opportunity to get to know our beliefs, to release what no longer serves us, and to become more courageous in our life.
I have found that it’s the fear of making the wrong choice or of missing out on what you don’t choose that often stops women like you and I.
The truth also is that there are no wrong choices.
Each path you can take will invite you to grow, change, and expand, even when it doesn’t feel good.
It will require you to become more than who you are now.
It will push your boundaries and make you feel deeply.
When you’re ready for this and you know it’s inevitable you can face it head on from a place of strength, courage, and inner power.
When you expect there to be only 1 magical choice that will easily get you what you want you are setting yourself up for disappointment.
Make choices courageously and from your heart. That’s when the Universe puts wind in your sails.
Here’s an exercise you can do. Answer these questions for yourself and tell yourself the truth.
- What is the easiest choice you ever made?
- What is the hardest choice you ever made?
- What made one easy and the other hard?
- What did you learn about yourself as a result of each choice?
- Which one helped you grow more?
- Now that you can look back, what made the hard choice hard and the easy choice easy?
- Now that you can look back, was any fear or uncertainty you felt around that choice justified?
- If not, how can you tap into what you learned about yourself the next time you are faced with what appears to be a hard choice?
Kasia Rachfall is an intuitive breakthrough coach and healer working with the Akashic Records to help spiritual women break generational patterns of feeling inherently broken so they can feel whole and have the freedom to accept their imperfect selves fully.
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