There is a lot of pressure on women – and I get that some of it is self imposed, but some of it comes from society, family, work, friends, the media… When I turned 40 recently I found myself really struggling. I don’t know what exactly made me freak out but it had something to do with believing I should be somehow different than I am. More. Further. Different. 

It didn’t help that many of the people I spoke to about my freak out told me to just get over it – in a well meaning and kind tone of voice, of course. And I trust me, I wished I could just get over it. I wished I could have just let go of all those swirling emotions and thoughts and judgments. I didn’t want to admit to them that it wasn’t that easy, that I felt like they didn’t really get how hard this was for me, and that their advice sucked. 

So, I turned to Google and typed in “Advice for women turning 40” or something like that. What I found was even worse. I’m not kidding! I found so much utter bullshit that wasn’t worth the pixels it was written with. It was all surface stuff and it pissed me off more. Who cares about the color of eye shadow you wear after 40? Who cares whether you wear leggings or sparkly things? Who cares if you do or don’t drink wine or whiskey? Utter crap. 

There was very little about how to handle this transition in life, how to uncover your deeper self now that you have more time because your kids are more independent, how to manage the stress, overwhelm and (self) judgement of feeling alone, like you don’t belong, or you don’t know how to redefine yourself. Or how to deal with all the emotions that started to bubble up now that you don’t want to numb them anymore because you know they are making you sick and sucking your energy.

This experience lit an even bigger fire under my butt and fired up the mission I was already on: to empower women to thrive, feel whole and enough, and to live life on their own terms. This struggle over my birthday was nothing compared to what I had already overcome in my life and I knew I had the tools to deal with it. I was grateful I knew what to do to during this freak out and how to move through it.

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